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Lenten Ideas for Teens and Tweens

It seems like every year Lent sneaks ups on me. I know it’s coming, yet I still find myself scrambling at the last minute to find something to read and to think of something meaningful to do or not do.  Not this year. This year I think I’ve got a game plan – or at least the beginnings of one.

My children on the other hand, are a different story.  I realized the profound shallowness of one of my children’s Lenten preparation when I heard her say, “I’m glad it’s almost Lent, I need to get in shape.”  It dawned on me then that I wasn’t the only one in the family who needed to prepare in order to prepare for the resurrection of our Lord. So, to help my children get beyond just giving up sweets (and shedding a few pounds) I’ve compiled a list of ideas for teenagers.  For those of you who have managed to raise kids who are free from the trappings of this world and whose idea of  reasonable Lenten disciplines are horse hair shirts and sleeping without a blanket, I applaud you.  I’d love to know the secret, and there’s probably no need for you to keep reading. But my children are a delightful mix of worldliness and would-be saints – who listen to pop music, own cell phones, and think leggings are pants.  Here are some things I’m going to suggest they prayerfully consider giving up and taking on for Lent…

Look how open she is!

Look how open she is!


Prayer is the key to holiness and to growing closer to God.  It should be as important to us as oxygen.  And yet it’s so easy to forget to pray or to get distracted at prayer.  Having a prayer system can help.  Here are some of my favorite ways to add prayer to my day or to make my prayers more meaningful.

  • The ACTS prayer – This is a way to organize prayer so we don’t spend to whole time just  listing the things we want from God. The ACTS prayer involves praying first Adoration, then Confession, next Thanksgiving, and finally Supplication.
  • Aspirations – These are short, silent prayers offered up anytime and anyplace – Jesus, I love you.  Lord, have Mercy.  Jesus, I believe.  Help me with my unbelief. Mother Mary, prayer for us.  Any small way that we can turn our hearts and minds to the Lord throughout the day are pleasing to Him and can help us grow in holiness.
  • Keeping a prayer journal – It’s easy to say, “I’m going to pray for Brittany.” Or “I’m going to be more thankful.”  But as we all know, easier said than prayed.  I’m going to encourage my children to write down their prayer intentions and blessings.  As any seasoned prayer knows, writing down prayers not only helps us remember what to pray, but allows us to look back later and see how God as worked in our lives.


Every time I pray the third sorrowful mystery of the rosary (the crowning with thorns), I ask Jesus to help my children and me to remember the outcast and the bullied.  I realize that our Lord suffered much more than bullying, but still for the sake of His suffering, I hope that my children (and I) will make an effort to relieve the suffering of someone else being mocked, ridiculed, or forgotten.   A kind word, a smile,  or a “how’s it going?” might mean the world to someone who feels invisible most of the time.  I hope this Lenten season my children will invite a loner to sit with them at lunch, compliment a kid who others barely notice, or is some way make a special effort at kindness.


I’ll be honest.  I’m not a huge fan of contemporary Christian music.  I dislike it for the same reason I dislike most Kelly Clarkson or One Direction songs.  There’s nothing wrong with them.  They just aren’t my thing.  But they are a far site better than most of the vile, brainless junk on pop radio.  Blogger, Matt Walsh, makes a great case that pop music isn’t only immoral, it’s also making us stupid.  Lent is a great time for all of us to cleanse our hearts and minds.  While I do monitor what my kids listen to, totally blocking out the world isn’t really an option. But I am asking my children to replace some of their pop music with more Christian music this Lenten season.


It’s tempting to see Lent an excellent time for the kids to kick some bad habits or to take on a few more household chores. You know, make a few sacrifices.   They could pledge to keep their rooms clean for the entire 40 days of Lent or to quit leaving their junk in the car.  After all, why not kill two birds with one religious stone.  But that’s not really the point of Lent, so I refrain from asking my kids to do the things  think they ought to do for Lent.  But I do encourage them to think of new and sacrificial ways to serve their family, friends, church, or community. And cleaning their own trash out of the car wouldn’t kill them.


Again, I’m not trying to turn Lent into my personal to-do list for my kids, but I’d like to see them write more thank you notes.  Thank you notes are a concrete way to express gratitude, often to someone who isn’t expecting it – a former teacher, an aging relative, an admired adult.  One thank you note a week during Lent is a modest, but meaningful goal.  And it has the power to touch the lives of both the sender and the receiver.


This one is pretty obvious.  Lot’s of young people probably quit or limit social media for Lent.  That’s great.  I’m not asking my kids to give up all social media.  And I don’t want them to give it up just to be able to say they gave up something in the Lent.  I want them to make better use of their time in general.  By limiting social media, they will have more time for prayer, spiritual reading, or just being quiet before God. What better way to grow closer to Him?  How much should they limit?  I think I’ll leave that up  to each of them.  My prayer is that they will make space for God.


Apparently, I am not the only come up with this is an idea.  I admire any young lady who can go a month without looking in the mirror.  For my girls, who aren’t quite ready to go to that extreme, I am suggesting looking in the mirror less – say only in the morning before leaving the house and not again until the school day is over.


Like looking too much in the mirror, the paradox of the selfies is that they are vain – both pride (Hey! Look at me!) and their insecurity (Please, please, look at me).  Spending 40 days not being overly concerned about what others think sounds like a great way to develop spiritually.


Obviously spiritual reading – the Bible, the lives of the Saints, stories from the mission field are a powerful addition to anyone’s Lenten disciplines, but I’d also like to see my children read some classic literature during Lent.  I know.  I know. Lent is not about getting them to do what I want them to do, but developing a taste for literature that draws our senses to what is true and beautiful is a worthwhile pursuit any time of the year.  Why not make Lent a time to let God develop in us a taste for what is lovely and true in literature instead of what is ugly and common and popular.  Haley who blogs at Carrots for Michaelmas suggests 10 Book to Read With Your Daughter So She Doesn’t Turn Out Like That Horrid Girl From Twilight.


Of course we should always avoid gossip and unkind talk, but sometimes we forget that this rule applies even when it’s people we don’t know.  For some reason we feel totally free to make catty remarks about a stranger’s outfit or a celebrity’s weight.  After all, we don’t know them and they don’t know us.  What can it hurt?  But poison is poison.  Why put it out there?  This Lenten season I’m encouraging my kids to avoid negative talk of any kind.

I’m not sure which, if any, of the things on this list my children will choose.  The point is not for them to make themselves miserable or the “accomplish” some Lenten chores. But Lent is a time set apart.  Our lives should be different during these days to remind us that because of Him our lives are different.  We are different.  Yes, we are called to go with Christ into the desert.  But if we come out smug in our own spiritual toughness (and 5 lbs thinner), we’ve missed the point.  We go into the desert to be with our Lord.  We do this through prayer but also by being willing to shed those things which we hold dear but that might (or might not) keep us from loving Him fully.

As a parent it is my job to guide my children to choose meaningful Lenten practices.  It’s a big job. The grace’s offered to us during this time are boundless, and I don’t want my kids to miss out.  So, I guess I’ve got one more thing to add to my own Lenten journey – praying for my children’s Lenten journey. 

Lenten reading suggestions for teens and tweens..

This Catholic Teen Bible comes highly recommended.

Amy Welborn’s Prove It books answer some of the tough questions about the faith that many teens face.

100 Things Every Catholic Teen Should Know

You Cat  – a catechism for Catholic youth.

Ablaze! Stories of Daring Teens Saints


If you are a parent, you have likely heard of the Common Core Standards, especially if you live in one of the 46 states that have adopted these new national standards. But if you are like most parents, you probably know very little about CCS or how these will affect your children.  As an English teacher and literature lover, I was thrilled when first introduced to the CCS, mainly because I liked what I saw (for the most part) on the list of exemplar texts.  As time has passed, and I’ve seen the Common Core implemented in my school and my children’s schools, my initial joy has faded.  In fact, I have some serious concerns about these standards and how they were developed and implemented.  I cannot say that I am opposed to the CCS, but I do have reservations.  I’ve compiled a list of pros and cons about these standards, so that you can judge for yourself.  This is by no means an exhaustive list.  My research has been minimal and much of this is just my opinion.  Still, I hope this will at least serve as a starting point to help you understand a bit more about this massive shift in the American education system.

But first, let me explain what the Common Core is.  Up until recently, each state was responsible for developing it’s own set of standards for what constituted a sound education in that state.  With the new Common Core, those standards will no longer vary but be nationalized.  Adoption of the CCS is technically voluntary, but not really (more about that below).  The Common Core is not a curriculum per se.  Rather it is a set of standards that tells us what a well-educated person should have studied, mastered, read, or written.  Text book companies and testing companies have scrambled to rewrite their materials to be sure they are common core aligned.  Individual states and schools are free to choose any curriculum or texts aligned with the Common Core Standards.  However, CC does not rely heavily on text books.  Also, the Common Core does not mandate a specific list of books.  Rather there is a list of CC exemplar texts for each grade level.  This list is meant to serve as a guide for teachers as to the types of books that meet the rigorous standards of the Common Core.  However, I think it is safe to assume that a lot of school districts will default to the exemplar texts list rather than choosing literature based on the specific needs and interests of their community.


1. Standards are national.  It is hard to argue with the idea that a uniform set of standards is a good idea.  This means that the expectations for children in New York will be the same as those in Arkansas.  The Common Core creates a more level playing field.

2. This level playing field is good for kids who move frequently.  Again, states have some flexibility as to what they teach, but generally speaking the concepts will not vary.  So, if a third grader moves from California to Maine in the middle of the school year, he may or may not have read the same books as his new classmates (good chance he will have), but he will have studied the same general set of skills.

3.  The level playing field is good for standardized testing.  It just makes sense that if the test scores of students in Kentucky are going to be compared to those of students in Arizona, that those children should go into the test with the same base of knowledge.

4. CCS is heavy on classic literature.  Sort of.   Common Core places a huge emphasis on nonfiction and informative texts, however many of the exemplar texts are classics. Yay!

5. The Common Core encourages critical thinking.  Well, that’s the idea anyway.  Under these new standards, students will spend less time memorizing and engaging in the “choke and puke” method of learning (choke down the information and puke it up for the test).  Instead, they will be engaging in learning that more closely resembles “real world” situations. There will be a greater emphasis on problem solving, creating, and even working cooperatively with others to reach goals.  All of these skills are considered important skills for 21st century employment.

6.  Under the CCS student evaluations will be more varied. To be sure the Common Core will not put an end to standardized testing.  In fact in some states, like my home state of Arkansas, testing is going to get considerably more intense. However, teachers in every CC state will be expected to evaluate students using method other than testing – writing assessments, portfolios, projects, and presentations.

7.  The CCS emphasize the use of primary documents.  This means that rather than reading everything out of a text book, students will read the actual documents written by founding fathers, great men and women of history, scientists, great thinkers, and scholars.


1.  Adoption of the Common Core is not voluntary – not really. Why is this a big deal?  The United States has always left control of public schools primarily to the states and to local school districts. This is to ensure that those who pay the bulk of the taxes that support the school retain control over their schools.  In other words, the best interest of the community and the state should be served first.  In fact, federal law prohibits the U.S. Department of Education from intrusive control over public education.  So while adoption of the Common Core is not mandatory, only schools who do adopt the standards will be eligible for their share of 4.35 billion dollars of Race to the Top Funding.   In her letter to the Roman Catholic hierarchy in the U.S., Phyllis Shlafly reports that schools were also warned that by not adopting the new standards, they would lose Title I funding.  In other words, it seems as though the federal government has found a way to skirt around federal prohibitions on federal mandates for public education by resorting to old fashion bribery.

2. The Common Core Standards are the product of big corporations.  This is not to say that educators and education experts had no role in the creations of the standards, but in her blog post Why I Cannot Support the Common Core Standards, Diane Ravitch, educational policy analyst and New York University Research Professor said,  They [the standards] were developed by an organization called Achieve and the National Governors Association, both of which were generously funded by the Gates Foundation. There was minimal public engagement in the development of the Common Core. Their creation was neither grassroots nor did it emanate from the states.  Personally, I am uncomfortable with the Gates Foundation’s heavy hand in my children’s education.  But there is more heavy handedness…

3.  The primary architect of the CCS, David Coleman, is now the head of The College Board.  This is the organization responsible the SAT, the AP program, and the PSAT.  In other words, one man has immense control over the education our children grades K-college.  Check out his ideas and associations by clicking above to see if you are okay with that.

4.  The Standards have been implemented nearly all across the nation with no field testing. In other words, these standards have been adopted without any idea of how they will affect students or teachers.  They might be successful, but we don’t really have anyway of knowing.

5.  Seventy percent of all student reading will be non-fiction.  How sad.  It might be tempting to think that no one cares about poetry and literature except nerdy English teachers, but good literature teaches lessons and starts conversations about life, love, death, hope, belonging, sin, faith, hate, and so much more in a way that most non-fiction, especially the technical writing being pushed by Common Core, cannot.   A good education should teach students to recognize truth and beauty and give them the tools to choose what is true and beautiful.  Education is about so much more than career training.  That has been true throughout the history of the world.  Great minds are formed by great books not by technical manuals.  Unfortunately, the CC seems to be more about training students for careers rather than educating  them in the truest sense.

6. Like No Child Left Behind, The Common Core ignores the developmental age of children.  One of the main purposes of the CCS is to make US students globally competitive.  That sounds great, but at what cost?  Traditionally American education has been geared toward and even respected the developmental age of children.  Most of us attended kindergartens and primary schools that had play centers and three recesses a day.  We memorized our state capitols and the list of US presidents.  We did these things because both play and memorization are pleasurable and beneficial for young children.   They form the mind in a way that makes later critical thinking possible.  They are appropriate and they create hooks on which to hang later knowledge.  But now there is no time for play or silly rote memorization.  With the CCS emphasis on critical thinking, students are being expected to engage in much more rigorous learning at a much younger age.  They are expected to do what is not developmentally appropriate.  It is sad, and it is costing our children some precious years.  Even sadder, I don’t think it works.  When appropriate developmental steps are skipped, it makes later learning harder.  To create critical thinkers in high school, we must have creative players in grade school.  Play teaches thinking.

And it isn’t just elementary age children who are suffering through developmentally inappropriate work. This 7th grade teacher explains to her students that she opposes Common Core, in part because it asks her students to do things that are at a high school level.

7.  According to this website, the CC does not allow for modifications.  If this is true, it’s news to me and to every other teacher I know.  We are constantly reminded of the importance of modifying for students with special needs. If the new standards do not allow for such modifications, there is no doubt a number of students will suffer.

8.  There are significant privacy concerns with the Common Core Standards.  Seriously, this is worth looking in to.

9.  The Common Core ignores the dignity of certain careers.  I might be wrong about this, but the vibe of the Common Core seems to be all about college.  Vocational classes are expected to have their students do more writing, as if learning to weld or fix a car isn’t good enough on it’s own.  It’s not like kids aren’t writing in other classes.  But now their vocational classes must be intellectualized to have value.

Whew!  I’m sorry.  I know that is a lot of information.  My goal was to simply list some pros and cons of the Common Core, but that’s not as easy as it sounds.  This is a complex issue with a multitude of implications for our children and for the future of our country.  I don’t have it all figured out, but I am trying to stay informed. Below are some helpful links:

Privacy and the Common Core

Pros and Cons of the Common Core Standards

The Washington Post lists pros and cons

More pros and cons

Teachers Against Common Core

Catholic Scholars Blast Common Core

A Guided Exploration on Common Core

Common Core Sexualized American Education

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